How to Increase Intimacy

We do crazy things when we are in love! Why? Because we naturally pursue what we DON'T HAVE. But then what so often happens? We get married and then we stop pursuing. 

No one gets married thinking, “I’m going to stop pursuing my spouse! I want a bad marriage and 7 years later split up everything and just have the kids on the weekend.” No one thinks that on their wedding day!

We have good intentions! We love each other, but life just wears us down and we stop pursuing our spouse. So we might have good intentions, but actions are what matter! At Mosaic, we have been talking about setting the right kind of Relationship Goals: 

1. God is my ONE and my spouse is my TWO
2. I will always PURSUE my TWO.

So how do we do that?

I want to share three simple principles about closing the gap between our intentions and our actions. Three simple rules that will help us to always PURSUE our TWO.

1. When You Think Something Good, SAY IT!

Hebrews 3:13 (NIV)
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.

If you want to keep the deceitfulness of sin out of your marriage, one of the ways you can do it is you can encourage one another daily. Every time you think something good, you say it! Don't rob your spouse of the blessing that they could receive from your words of affirmation!

2. When You Think of Something Special To Do, DO IT!

James 4:17:
If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.

This could be doing an act of service for your spouse, buying them a gift "just because", or a loving physical touch. These actions show that we appreciate our spouse and that we are intentionally pursuing them!

3. When You Want Something Different, BE IT!

Revelation 2:5
Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first.

Don’t complain about what your spouse isn’t. Instead- become who God wants you to become.

You want something different? Be it! Be the change you want to see!

Instead of complaining about what you're not getting in your marriage, ask yourself, “what can I do in my marriage to always pursue my two?” There was a time when you did it! You were in love, and you did stupid things. Why? Because you were crazy about this person, and years later you wonder why you're not. Somewhere along the way, you stopped pursuing.

To get what you once had, what do you have to do?  You must do what you once did! You had it before. You can get it again!